I prefer people who want to quit to tell that they are quitting. I hate being left to wonder if they come back or not. Or, if they don;t tell from the start, at least when they receive a worried PM from me “Are you all right? I haven;t seen you around for so many weeks and you haven’t posted a notice of absence…”
The story is going on. We need to know what to do in the story and with the characters of the missing person, how to take them out of the story if she doesn’t return.
I wish the people well and I talk with them, at the same time. Usually the people who had left were in the following categories:
- players who got busy suddenly: a promotion or job switch, a very loaded semester at school, etc. and decided they had not enough time for writing our story; in this case, I ask them what to do with their characters, I wish them well and I tell them that if they want to return, I am an e-mail away and they will be warmly received back, be it with the same character or with another.
- players who got angry on something (yes, not many, but we had a few): the ones who didn’t like our way of writing, who had an attitude, got jealous if people weren’t writing only with them, etc. Sorry, but we don’t miss their negativity and dramas!
- players who had just joined and didn’t want to research at all, to modify their bios when they got something wrong, etc. Everybody gets recommendations what threads to join, they are not lonely and lost when they join, but an administrator can do only so much. When you got all the recommendations and you didn’t follow any, sorry, it is not my fault you refused to get involved!